They should not put so much pressure on me.

1. Yes.
   
   
2. No (Cannot know that is true, nor what is best for their and mine paths.)
   
   
3. How do I react when I believe that thought?
   
   Feel overwhelmed. Paralyzed. Too much pressure. Difficult to keep up. In over my head. Hopeless. Frantic. Blame them for the pressure. Feel separated from the project, them, myself and life.
   
   What do I get from holding onto this belief?
   
   I get to feel overwhelmed. I get an excuse for not getting it all done, or bailing out. I get to be right - they are the ones pressuring me.
   
   
4. Who or what would I be without that belief?
   
   OK with what is. Free to engage without sense of pressure. >> Free to find my excitement in it, my passion, my enjoyment in the project. Free to enjoy it, free from the pressure. The whole atmosphere changes - from dark, oppressed, narrow, confined, separate to open, spacious, light, supported, enjoyable.
   
   
5. (a) They should put so much pressure on me.
   
   Yes, because they do. Also, I agreed to do it so they are just expecting what I already agreed on. It is all on me. I welcomed it all in initially, and right now in the present.
   
   (b) I shouldn't put so much pressure on me.
   
   Yes, I am the one putting pressure on me. I can see that it comes from wanting to do it, not outside pressure. It is all from me.
   
   (c) I should put pressure on me.
   
   Yes, that too. It all comes from my own wanting to do it, so it is all appropriate.
   
   (d) I should not put so much pressure on them.
   
   That is true as well. When I have a should about them, I am the one putting pressure on them. While it is all about me - I chose to do it initially, I am the one who agreed to do it, I am the one who want to do it, I am the one who is putting pressure on me, I am the one putting pressure on them.
   
   (e) I should put pressure on them.
   
   Yes, because I do. That is how it comes out. That is how it comes out when I believe the thought that they should not put so much pressure on me. It is the natural consequence of that belief, in this situation. Also, if I want something to change, I should let them know. I should put pressure on them, in that way - although if I am clear about the situation, it will just be clear communication, not really pressure.
   
   (f) My thoughts should not put so much pressure on me.
   
   Yes, that too. When the original thought comes up and I believe in it, my thoughts (appear) to put pressure on me.
   
   (g) My thoughts should not put so much pressure on them.
   
   When the original thought comes up and I believe in it, my thoughts (appear) to put pressure on them as well.
   
   (h) My thoughts should put pressure on me/them.
   
   Yes, that is what happens when there is a belief in them. It is just the natural process of it.
   

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